# Male Loneliness: The Unspoken Struggle Written by [Famous Erwin, LMHC, LPC, CAM 2](https://www.talkspace.com/mental-health/conditions/author/famouserwin/) Published Nov 30, 2023 Updated Nov 01, 2024 Clinically reviewed by [Dr. Karmen Smith, LCSW, DD](https://www.talkspace.com/mental-health/conditions/author/karmensmith/) Recent research [shows](https://www.americansurveycenter.org/why-mens-social-circles-are-shrinking/) that men are lonelier than ever. Only 27% of men say they have 6 close friends (this number is half what it was 30 years ago). Further, 15% of men say they have _no_ close friends at all (up an astounding 500% since 1990). Why do these numbers matter? First, [studies suggest](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4225959/) that loneliness is a significant factor in developing depression. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America notes that clinical depression is something an estimated [6 million men](https://adaa.org/find-help/by-demographics/mens-mental-health#:~:text=Over%206%20million%20men%20suffer,and%20women%20develop%20the%20illness.) live with each year in this country. Since [depression in men](https://www.talkspace.com/blog/depression-in-men/) often goes undiagnosed and, thus, untreated, we need to explore the causes of male loneliness to assess how it might impact mental health over time. This becomes even more critical when we consider that loneliness is associated with [an increased risk of death](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5754055/) in men. Read on to learn more about men and loneliness during [Men’s Health Awareness Month](https://www.talkspace.com/mens-mental-health-awareness) and beyond. We’ll explore the link between loneliness and depression and share coping techniques that can help if you or a man you care about is affected by male loneliness. ## Causes of Loneliness in Men The causes of loneliness in men are often complex and varied. Some factors have deep roots. Others may _seem_ superficial on the surface, but they still significantly impact the intensity of loneliness a man might be experiencing. ### Lack of close friendships It’s not uncommon for older men to struggle with making close friends — especially after college. This may be because of societal expectations that encourage them to focus on things like their career and achieving financial success, which might leave less time to socialize and develop deep and meaningful relationships with a new friend. ### Societal expectations Societal pressure and expectations cause men to feel like they have no choice but to be strong and independent. The tough guy image resulting from masculine norms discourages some men from expressing their emotional needs or desires. This can quickly lead to emotional isolation — even for those men with people in their lives who care deeply about them. ### Not being willing or able to open up Some [research suggests](https://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/millions-of-men-are-hiding-their-loneliness/) that many men have a hard time discussing their feelings of loneliness. Unfortunately, being unwilling to open up may stifle deep connections with others and exacerbate loneliness. ### Career pressure and stress The pursuit of career success may be a culprit that causes some men to sacrifice personal relationships or hobbies that could help reduce male loneliness. ### Mental health conditions Several mental health conditions have been linked to loneliness in men. As discussed, loneliness is directly associated with the onset of depression, according to multiple studies and [research](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9636084/). > “Loneliness can be a significant prompt for depression. When individuals feel isolated and disconnected from others, they may experience feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and despair. Over time, these emotions can intensify into clinical depression if not addressed.” > – [Talkspace therapist Famous Erwin, LMHC](https://www.talkspace.com/mental-health/conditions/author/famouserwin/) ## The Impact on Mental Health It’s clear that loneliness takes a silent toll on men’s mental health that results in conditions like depression or anxiety. In extreme cases, loneliness can even lead to suicidal ideation or acts in both young and older adults. ### Depression While we’ve already touched on the idea that loneliness can manifest as depression — this is about more than just “ [feeling blue](https://www.talkspace.com/blog/feeling-the-blues/)” or down. Depression often impacts every aspect of life. ### Anxiety [Research](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9545877/#:~:text=Studies%20have%20shown%20that%20loneliness,higher%20depression%20and%20anxiety%20symptoms.) also shows that chronic loneliness can be a predictor of anxiety. ### Suicide In very severe cases, persistent loneliness pushes some men toward contemplating death by suicide as they desperately seek an escape from the emotional pain they’re experiencing. This is why it’s so crucial to recognize and address male loneliness _before_ symptoms escalate. > “The connection between male loneliness and suicide is influenced by social, cultural, and psychological factors. Addressing this issue requires a comprehensive approach that includes reducing stigma, promoting emotional well-being, and fostering supportive communities and relationships. It’s essential to recognize the signs of unhappiness in men and provide them with the help and support they need to prevent suicide.” > – [Talkspace therapist Famous Erwin, LMHC](https://www.talkspace.com/mental-health/conditions/author/famouserwin/) ## Coping Strategies for Men Dealing with Loneliness A [major study](https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=3024&context=facpub&) found that when social isolation is experienced long-term, it substantially increases the risk of premature death. This is yet another reason why it’s so critical to find coping techniques when men are [so lonely](https://www.talkspace.com/blog/why-am-i-so-lonely/). The following strategies can help men learn to manage the adverse outcomes loneliness causes. ### Connect with others Try joining a club or sports team. A mutually shared interest may bridge gaps and spark conversations that might develop into meaningful relationships. As you connect with others in these new circles, it’s important to be open and willing to share your emotions. Vulnerability can encourage others to reciprocate and deepen relationships. ### Prioritize self-care [Self-care](https://www.talkspace.com/blog/what-is-self-care/) can address the mental and physical health aspects that loneliness significantly impacts. Prioritize taking care of yourself by doing small things that rejuvenate you. ### Leverage technology In the digital age we live in, technology offers several avenues that can help men deal with loneliness. Online support groups and therapy platforms make getting help and connecting with others easier than ever. ### Get professional help If your chronic loneliness is too much, it might be time to seek professional help. Therapy and counseling provides tools and tips to manage your emotions effectively.